Thursday, January 8, 2009

Real Resolutions for Moms

I borrowed this from Karen Ehman's blog - I thought it was great and precisely summed up my heart for this new year.

It’s that time when many of us are making New Year’s resolutions, so how about some resolutions for mothers? Here are mine:

I will put my Bible before the television, the radio, the telephone, and even before good Christian books, for my children will know my priorities by the way they see me spend my free time.

I will make my prayer requests known before God and my children, enlisting their help in the process and informing them of the outcome, for by letting them help when I petition our Lord will they learn of a living God who still answers prayer.

When times of crisis, conflict or confusion arise, I will hit my knees before I hit the phone knowing that by my example my children will discover that although friends are important, God alone is the one who holds the solution to life’s every problem.

I will erase the words “luck” and “lucky” from my vocabulary and will instead by my speech point my children toward the One who orchestrates every detail of our lives and brings all good things to pass, for by this my children will learn of an omniscient God.

When bad things happen, I’ll neither grumble nor complain, but will instead help my children see that in the scope of our lives even the bad times are allowed for a reason, for by this my children will learn quiet trust in their Maker.

When normal childhood mishaps occur, I will remember that although difficult, it is still easier to remove grape juice from off-white carpet than to erase harsh and unloving words hurled at a child whose chubby little fingers have failed her, for by this my children will see a God who understands when our best efforts fall short.

When my children have witnessed something ugly in me - unkind words, an angry temper, “harmless” gossip, biting sarcasm or even my infamous “mommy pout” when things don’t go my way - I will confess it as sin before them seeking their forgiveness, for by this my children will develop the much needed habit of wiping their spiritual slate clean before God and man.

I will teach my children the importance of cleanliness and order while at the same time remain sensitive to the fact that a skinned knee or hurt feeling is more crucial than a spotless floor or uncluttered counter, for by this my children will learn to value people above things.

I will make time for the lonely, the sick, the elderly, the difficult to love, and will bring my children along, for with each afternoon visit, each ride to the doctor, each raked lawn or washed window they will have opportunity to serve Jesus by serving the “least of these.”

I will make our home a haven of rest and retreat from the outside world and a welcomed place for my children’s friends, for with each impromptu backyard soccer game, each video viewed on a rainy day, each cup of hot cocoa or chocolate chip cookie, my children will have opportunity to practice the art of Christian hospitality thereby learning to share all God has given them.

I will by my actions and my speech let my children see a mom love their dad, for by this will my children sense family stability at a time when marriages all around them are crumbling.

I will not require of my children obedience, honesty, patience or kindness without first being willing to submit to the same rules whether in speed limit, in miscounted change from the grocery store or when answering a toddler for the fourteenth time, for by this my children will see a mother who is also learning and not a perfect parent to whom they’ll never measure up.

In all things will I remember that more is caught than is taught.

There are little eyes upon you, mom. You are the first Bible your children will ever read.

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Happy New Year - 2008 Reflections

I usually get pretty analytical at the end of a year as I think about all that has happened in the previous 12 months. It is always exciting to start fresh the first day of a new year. A lot of life has been lived the past year, and we are grateful to God for the many blessings and trials the year has held. I thought I would cap some of the highlights each month held. Thank you, God, for all You have given to us and allowed us to do this past year.


January

  • We drove home to TN after celebrating Christmas and New Year's in PA
  • David went to Nashville to visit good friends for a weekend
  • David started classes at Pellissippi State - this was a HUGE step for him and I was so proud of him taking that step - he still worked full time at Sprint but wasn't very happy with his job there - we started praying that God would help him find his calling in life not just simply a job (thanks to 48 Days to the Work You Love by Dan Miller)
  • Joy and Trey visited good friends Jenn and Parker in Kennesaw, GA for a couple days
  • Trey got RSV - thankfully, he had a mild case that has left no residual asthma or breathing issues - he did have to be on nebulizer treatments for a couple weeks


February

  • Joy started back to work in labor and delivery 1 night a week on David's day off
  • We visited Matt and Renee for a weekend in Chattanooga, TN
  • We started praying for direction as we sensed a strong need for change in our family - we were praying specifically for David's schooling and Joy's work - Joy wanted to be closer to her family - we pursued schooling and work options in PA as well in Virginia, North Carolina - we decided that we would also pursue Phoenix because Joy had lived there before and we knew there were plenty of opportunities for jobs and schooling

March

  • Joy's parents stop to see us for 2 nights on the way back from Florida
  • We bought our first Mac
  • Stephen and Catherine (David's brother) visited Knoxville and were able to meet Trey for the first time


April

  • Joy accepts the job at Banner Good Samaritan in Phoenix, AZ
  • We celebrated Easter with Joy's brother Mark and family in North Carolina
  • We had our first date since Trey was born - we went to an afternoon movie and David's parents watched Trey for us - it was so nice to get out together

May

  • Joy's first mother's day
  • Trey and Joy go visit the Perry family in North Carolina
  • We took a family beach vacation with friends to Panama City Beach, Florida - Trey's first trip to the beach - we had so much fun with friends for the week


June

  • David's first father's day and birthday fell on the same day - we had a wonderful weekend celebrating with David's family as his brothers were home that weekend
  • Joy and Trey flew to Seattle for her brother's ordination - her parents, Grammy, and Aunt Sharon were all there too - it was Trey's first flight and he did great
  • Trey started to crawl and got faster and faster each day

July

  • We took a long weekend trip to Phoenix to look for housing
  • Joy's celebrated her 30th birthday
  • We celebrated Joy's parent's 40th wedding anniversary in PA with a trip home for all her siblings and a getaway to a cabin for a few days

August

  • Trey got croupe and was in the hospital for 2 nights - a crisis at the time but a blessing in disguise as we were delayed in driving out to AZ (God's timing is perfect)
  • We found out last minute that we weren't able to drive David's car to AZ - we packed everything in Joy's car and decided to sell David's car
  • We moved from Knoxville, TN to Glendale, AZ - we were going to rent a condo short term until we bought a home but God provided in other amazing ways for us
  • We started living and serving at UIM in Glendale and started looking for our own home to buy
  • Joy started her new job at Good Sam

September

  • We put a contract on a home in Goodyear, AZ - a beautiful 4 BR, 2 BA single story short sale
  • David learned the ropes around UIM and is so great at what he does here - he works about 20 hours a week and then cares for Trey while Joy is working or recovering from working
  • We celebrated our 2 year wedding anniversary in San Diego, CA - we spent very little for our 3 night stay thanks to Priceline.com

October

  • We bought our king size bed (David was super excited - Joy was nominally excited due to having no linen for a king size mattress)
  • Joy was diagnosed with hypothyroidism
  • We canceled our contract on the home in Goodyear, AZ after much prayer - we believe God is calling us to stay and serve at UIM for the time being - this is a great ministry that we are a part of where we are able to meet different missionaries - David has a great interest in aviation, and there are missionary pilots and aviation mechanics with UIM that David has been able to meet - we believe that God placed us here to give us further direction for our future
  • Trey celebrated his first birthday


November

  • Mom Perry came to visit - it was her 60th birthday while she was here and her kids, husband, and mom all went in together to surprise her with a cruise - Dad Perry came out the night before her birthday and surprised her as well and the 5 of us went on a 4 night cruise together to Mexico
  • We celebrated Trey's birthday with friends and family while in Knoxville - Joy's brother and nephew came from NC for Trey's party and the Riese's came from GA - Trey and Parker have fun playing together
  • We celebrated Thanksgiving in Knoxville, TN with David's family - we had so much being together - we were able to reconnect with friends - Matt, Renee, Stephen and Catherine were all home for Thanksgiving too


December

  • We took a trip to Seattle to see Joy's brother for a few days before Christmas\
  • We celebrated Christmas here as a family - it was a special day where we made a birthday cake for Jesus
  • We started thinking and praying together about our future with missions - we believe that God has us here at UIM to expose us to missions and to prepare our hearts for a possible future serving Him full time in missions someday. We hope to take a trip down to Tucson, AZ sometime in the near future to meet some of the pilots and aviation mechanics with UIM - David is also meeting with an Arizona Air Guard recruiter next week about reenlisting in the guard

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Merry CHRISTmas

We flew in late last night from a week in Seattle - we had such a fun time with family up there. It was cold and snowed every day we were there. I will blog about that when I finish with working these 3 nights in a row.

Today was our first Christmas with just the 3 of us. We have always been with extended family for the holidays and we both love to be with family so much. But I think today was a very special Christmas because we just had us. It was a quiet day - all 3 of us haven't been feeling too good - but it was very meaningful. We were able to reflect on the true meaning of Christmas. We are so thankful that we have each other and a sweet baby boy. It was a little different being so far away from friends and family that we love, but we both said at different times earlier today that there is no place either one of us would rather be than here with each other. We had originally wanted to volunteer to serve dinner at a homeless shelter, but that didn't work out for today - we hope to do that in the near future.

We made a birthday cake for Jesus and we sang to Him and blew out the candles. This was the most special part of our entire day. We want to always remember His coming to earth as a baby boy to be "GOD WITH US". We also want to teach Trey the true meaning of Christmas - that Jesus came to give us new life.

We are going to open our own gifts and do our stockings on Sunday, and I will post pictures when I have time.

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Scary times with Santa

This was our sweet 1 1/2 month old last Christmas


This is him one year later... he didn't mind the Santa at first...


We took Trey to sit on Santa's lap at a local kids consignment shop yesterday. Last year, we took him to the mall and snapped our own pictures. We decided to do the same this year. Last year Trey was sound asleep in Santa's arms. This year, he looked at Santa then looked at me horrified and started to cry. I couldn't help but snap a couple pictures before David rescued him.

But that quickly changed...

Monday, December 15, 2008

Thanksmas in Tennessee

We were able to get home to Tennessee for 10 days from Nov 19 - 29. I was able to arrange my schedule so that I only had to take 2 vacation days while we were gone. We flew into Nashville, and Matt and Renee came to pick us up. We had fun spending the night at their place on Wednesday night, and then Tom and Barbara picked us up on Thursday morning to take us up to Knoxville. Trey had a lot of fun getting reaquainted with everyone.



While we were in Knoxville, we had a little family party to celebrate Trey's first birthday. There are so many people who have been a special part of his first year, and it meant a lot to have so many there that we love. Thank you to everyone who came to celebrate with us. I was so excited that my brother Mark and my nephew Benjamin came on Saturday night and stayed overnight for the party on Sunday. It was their first trip to Knoxville. Unfortunately, his wife and other two kids had to stay back home in North Carolina, but it was fun to see Mark even for a short time. Benjamin kept Trey entertained while we got ready for the party. I made a cupcake bouquet for the party, and then we had some snacks to munch on.


We were able to catch up with some friends while we were there. We have missed our friends and especially our community group since we have moved. On Wednesday before Thanksgiving, David's brothers and their wives came to Knoxville for Thanksgiving - I absolutely love it when we are all together. We all pitched in and helped fix Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday - everything turned out so yummy. I ate more than I needed to, but how can you resist when it's Thanksgiving? I love to see David interact with his brothers - they are all so different yet have different little quirks that resemble one another. I also love to see Trey have fun with our extended family - he loves each one of them, and I know the feelings are mutual. The one thing that is hard about living in Arizona is knowing that we are missing out on more frequent interactions with family.




The big thing Trey learned is to climb the stairs. He learned to do it pretty well, but now he needs to learn how to climb back down. A couple times he attempted to come down head first which I wasn't too thrilled about, so we would turn him around to try to teach him to crawl back down the same way he crawled up.


We won't be in Tennessee or Pennsylvania for Christmas, so we were excited to celebrate Christmas with David's family the day after Thanksgiving. My family hardly ever is together on Christmas, so we take any opportunity to celebrate when we are all together. It was the same with David's family except we opened all the gifts from everyone and then everyone opened our gifts. David's brothers and his parents will celebrate Christmas together closer to the actual day, but we were glad to have a little glimpse of Christmas with them.


We had a fun time but were ready to come back to Arizona to get back into our own routine. We have some new friends who are staying at UIM for a few months - Dale and Shirley. They are a retired couple from Kansas who have come to help around the grounds, so that has been a big blessing to David. All the fruit trees need pruning, so Dale has been tackling that everyday. I loaded Trey up in his wagon, and I went out to help David the other day in the orchard. As much as we are sad to be away from family and friends, it is so exciting to know God has us here for a purpose.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Celebrating Mom Perry's 60th birthday / Cruise to Mexico

Trey and my Mom enjoying one another



Trey and Grandpa




My mom decided back in September that she would come visit us in November. I knew that her visit would fall on her birthday, so I wanted to do something special. My siblings, my dad, and my Grammy all decided to chip in to buy her a cruise for a combined birthday and early Christmas gift. We also decided to include my dad's early birthday and Christmas as well. My mom came out on November 5, but she had no idea about the cruise or my dad's surprise visit as well. We had fun while she was here. It was fun to be together, and she is always a help around the house. Trey loved having her around. She taught him how to wave "bye bye" when she was here. We spent Saturday November 8 at a craft boutique where I had a necklace made for myself - I told David that he could give me this for my Christmas gift. It is something I have always wanted.
The front
The back - our anniversary and Trey's birthday


On Sunday night (Nov. 9), David went to the airport to get my dad. One of the things David does here on occasion is pick up missionaries from the airport. He told us he was going to pick up a missionary, and I played along. Mom wanted to go to bed, but I talked her into staying up with me until David got home. I loved her reaction when my Dad walked in the door. She was surprised and thrilled that he was here. I know Dad was excited to be here too to be able to celebrate Mom's birthday with her. We told her that the next day we were going on a trip, but we didn't tell her where we were going. She thought we might be going to the Price is Right (something she has always wanted to do).

We left early Monday morning for Long Beach, CA, where our Carnival cruise ship awaited us. We had an incredibly yummy breakfast at Mimi's Cafe on the way out of Phoenix. All the way there, Mom still had no idea where we were going. As we were nearing the cruise ship terminal, I had her open a card explaining that we were giving her a 4 night Baja Mexico cruise for her birthday and Christmas, and she started to cry. She said she was so overwhelmed by this gift, and that is was too much for us to do.

Boarding the Carnival Paradise

My parents had never been on a cruise before. In fact, they have never done much travelling for themselves. All the travelling they ever do is to see family or to attend a church conference. It was such a blessing to honor them in this way and to give them something that they would probably never give themselves.


Formal dinner night
Guess where this picture was taken??? :-)

Our rooms on the Carnival Paradise were side by side. We did a lot of things together, but we also did our own thing as well. It was great to be able to put Trey to bed, and then leave the monitor with Mom or Dad while David and I went to do something else on the ship. We enjoyed our meals together - of course we all ate way TOO much. Trey did amazingly well on the cruise - he slept and ate well. He is a pretty versatile little guy, and we are thankful that he adapts well to new situations.
Dad looking at the boats in Catalina Island, CA
Asleep at dinner one night


Our head waiter, Viktor, adored Trey

Our cruise went to Catalina Island, California and Ensenada, Mexico. Our cruise ended on Friday the 14th and Mom and Dad left early on the 15th. It was so fun to make so many wonderful memories with them.Grandma and Trey looking at the other boats in Long Beach, CA

New plans

I realized that I didn't blog about changes we have going on in our family. First of all, we cancelled our contract on the house we were going to buy. We were all excited about it back in September, and we had a "Go" from the bank with an incredible interest rate. But a few weeks ago, I started feeling uneasy about buying right now. I wasn't sure where that was coming from, but I came home from work and told David how I was feeling. He told me he was feeling the same way. It was such a clear confirmation from God. So we decided that we would stay put where we are and continue to serve God at UIM until He directs us elsewhere. We are also able to save money every month because we have no cost of living expenses except our utilities. We have both had complete peace about this decision. We have also had this decision confirmed by our parents and also several close friends whom we respect. Our hearts are encouraged to know that God is intimately involved in our lives. I personally found such reassurrance that God directed both of our hearts separately and then brought us together to make the decision.

I also was recently diagnosed with hypothyroidism. I have really been battling weight issues for a few years now (since 2005), and I was really troubled by the fact that I can't seem to take the weight off and I just don't feel good. I am now on some medication to get my thyroid functioning again, and I feel almost like my head is coming out of a fog. My doctor thinks that if I don't have hypothyroidism then I definitely have adrenal fatigue - she said that is probably started back in 2005 when I had some super stressful situations that occurred. Then in 2006, I got engaged, moved to TN, started a new job, had to try to make new friends, planned a wedding away from home and family, started attending a new church, and got married all within a 6 month period of time. She said that all that combined probably led to this. I am encouraged to have some answers because I felt like I was falling apart on the inside. I felt like it affected how I viewed David and even motherhood as well as everything else. I still don't feel 100% but I think I am on my way. I am so thankful for a loving, caring husband who has stood by me and loved me when I didn't deserve to be loved. I am also thankful for friends and family who have loved me - you know who you are and I am so grateful for you.